Humans have a need for interaction with people. We don’t know when those fun times will be a part of our lives again. You’re used to going to work, spending time with friends and family, or enjoying a well deserved girls’ night out. And now you are confined to your house.
But you still need some kind of outlet to release stressors. Set yourself up to be the best you can be. How do you do that when you are stuck at home for the second (or fourth) shutdown?
I understand where you’re coming from. I’m right here with you.
How do you take care of yourself? Your house feels like a prison and you have sticky fingers grabbing at you all day long. Don’t get me wrong. We all love our kids but sometimes we get to that point where we need time for ourselves so we don’t go completely insane.
First things first, what IS self-care?
And what it isn’t?
There are many definitions of what self-care can be. It is not to be confused with self-indulgence or selfishness. These are very different terms and completely opposite of each other. Some think of self-care in a more clinical way. A means to prevent health-related issues or diagnoses from rearing their ugly heads. Others view this as a way to deal with stress in a manageable way.
Whatever view you take, is perfect for you. It’s different for everyone.
Be mindful of your well-being. You want to be healthy, do your job efficiently, help others, and do all the necessary tasks in a day. That is what taking care of you is all about. Your personal self-care regimen helps you put your best foot forward. Your definition of what your needs are may change from time to time, and that’s perfectly ok.
The only rule is that your routine should bring you joy and calm.
What are the 4 areas of self-care?
Physical – live a well-rounded healthy lifestyle.
Eat healthily, drink plenty of water, and regular exercise.
Emotional – be able to love and be kind to yourself and others
Set clear boundaries on your time, energy, and emotions.
Psychological – learning, thinking, and growing
Practice personal and professional development and pay attention to things you can control.
Spiritual – having purpose and meaning in your life
Show gratitude and focus on what means the most to you, like family.
If one of these areas interests you or if you would like to work toward incorporating all four, you are amazing. Learning to intertwine your self-care into your everyday routine helps you feel refreshed and grounded as a person. It only improves your life.
Effects of self-care
Limited clinical proof exists to back up the lasting effects of taking care of yourself. But experts believe there is a link. Many common health practices lead to longevity and other positive results. Research shows things like exercise, yoga, and mindfulness, boost mental and physical health. If you enjoy doing these types of activities, then guess what? It counts as self-care. Anything that brings you joy and helps you be the best you.
Some well-researched self-care practices that lead to a longer life are:
- Finding purpose in life
- Getting enough sleep
- Going outside
How to start a routine
Think about what makes you happy. What gives you more energy and leaves you feeling rejuvenated?
Don’t overwhelm yourself, you already have enough of that. Take a few minutes to think. Choose one behavior you would like to incorporate into your routine over the next week. Make the bed. Do the dishes before you go to sleep. Spend 15 minutes reading.
Build on that behavior by practicing every day for one week.
Think about how it makes you feel. You make your bed so you feel accomplished as soon as you wake up. You are happy to wake up to a tidy house. You have an extra hour and 45 minutes of knowledge every week which you didn’t have before.
Add in additional behaviors when you feel ready. They can be small. Slow and steady wins the race.
Need more ideas?
- Eat breakfast.
- Gratitude notebook/journal.
- Detox from electronics for 30 minutes before you go to bed.
- Call a friend just to say hi.
- Learn or start a relaxing hobby
- Pick a bedtime and actually go to bed at that time.
The main point is this: Don’t be afraid of self-care. It helps you have a positive outlook and effect on you as a wife, mother, daughter, and friend. It does take time but it’s well worth the energy you put into it.
Be your personal best.
Self-care for your mind
Stress triggers other negative effects like anxiety and depression. No FITpreneur mum needs that. So how do you combat anxiousness when life is so uncertain and stressful?
It’s crucial to look after your mental well-being in addition to your physical health. You should feel emotionally strong, resilient, and content.
Get enough sleep!
Lack of sleep can have a big impact on your emotions, memory, and critical thinking abilities. Sometimes you just need to sleep and don’t feel guilty for it. Get to bed at the same time every night. Try to have the room free of electronics. Your brain will connect your bedroom with sleeping. If you can’t fall asleep at first, read a book instead of checking in with everyone on Instagram.
Only positive thoughts allowed.
This can be hard sometimes. So start small. Start your day by saying out loud “I’m going to have a good day today.” You may feel a little silly at first. Positivity improves your mood which makes your whole demeanor happy. Pay special attention to the good things. Something that makes you smile, a delicious pastry, a picture your daughter drew for you. Focus on the little things.
Exercise and eat balanced meals.
You’ve heard this a thousand times but it’s the truth. Even if you are only able to take a quick, 10-minute stroll, movement and fresh air do wonders for the body and mind. Since you are at home, now is the perfect time to improve your cooking skills. If you have grocery delivery in your area, take advantage of it. It helps you resist the urge to buy cookies, chips, and other unnecessary items. Support your mindful health by having a healthy body.
Take a break from the news and the latest tik tok challenges. The internet and smartphones have made many things in life easier but they have their drawbacks too. Don’t be afraid to take a little break. Go on a nature walk and put your phone on airplane mode. The constant barrage of notifications and news alerts can make you crazy. That’s not the goal.
Start a new hobby.
Anything from sewing to whittling to collecting stamps. Anything to stimulate your mind with positive vibes. Check out the internet, Pinterest, or how to become a BalletBeFit instructor. As long as it’s something you enjoy and makes you happy. Our brains need a fun challenge. Start a hobby as a family – football, baking, or painting.
Find someone you can talk with openly. Your significant other, a friend, or your mom. It’s hard for some people to speak about how they are feeling or the struggles they are trying to work through. Find your person you can talk with candidly. It helps to get things off your chest so you don’t keep things buried inside. Those feelings have a way of bursting out at the most inconvenient times.
There is no shame in taking a little time to align yourself as a mum or as a businesswoman. Instead, it’s encouraged. You are going to be a much better person overall by taking care of yourself.
So, no more excuses. It’s time to show yourself a little love.
You deserve it.
What are you going to incorporate into your daily routine?
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